Two of my friends recently broke up. I have known one of them longer than the other but they both are important to me. One of the two is probably hurt and feeling lousy at best. I don’t know for sure because I’ve only had a short text conversation.
This all got me to thinking about relationships, break-ups and taking sides. I remember after my split with my former fiancee, I cut off all interaction with her and her family. Over the course of our relationship, I became very close to one side of her family. I hate still to this day that I can’t see them or their children who really loved seeing me. To see them again though would bring up bitterness and scars I choose not to relieve. I can’t believe it’s been two years since I last saw them.
I hate that one of the two people in the aforementioned couple isn’t communicating with anyone that I know right now. I understand where that person is coming from as they deal with the break-up but it’s tough. You come to know people, get used to them in your life then when they aren’t, you feel like a little part of your life has been taken away.
I know that person reads this blog so I’m hoping they’ll see this post and know that people understand their feelings. I know first hand how tough break-ups are. I suffered, rebuilt my life slowly and now I can finally write about such things without feeling hurt. All of the cliches apply.
- Time heal old wounds (or takes the sting out of them)
- Live one day at a time
- Everything happens for a reason
I stumbled across this site a long time ago and it helps with coping with the loss. I just wonder if they have one for lost friends.
Hmmmm I think its a really hard place to be. If you where introduced to a circle of friends as the new boy/girlfriend, then with the ending of the relationship you might simply feel that that circle is closed of to you now not to mention it may be a really uncomfortable circle to remain in if the ex is there too…..far too complicated for most…
*sigh* I know where you are coming from. Two of our great friends had a marriage break-up which lead to divorce. We really felt in the middle cause we liked them both….and still do. They have kids the same age as mine. We used to walk to their place for lots of bbqs, fun nights etc. Now all that has stopped. She has a new partner who I like but it just isn’t the same. But that is totally selfish cause she is so much happier now….him…not so much!
Break ups are hard, I get that. And you are right, time heals!
Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation. – Kahlil Gibran
That is very sweet — your friends are very lucky to have your support, even if they don’t quite realize it yet*
-Kelly
That’s a good link Taawd. I’ve been dealing with my break-up for over 2 years and am just getting to the point where I realize it’s over and life will not include her anymore. It sucks pretty hard.
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