Relationships

Disclaimer: As a rule, I don’t normally talk about personal things on this blog but I feel like I need to make an exception for the following blog.

I usually use Sundays to catch up with my friends on the phone. Why not just hang out with them? I know some of them from living in other cities. One thing I love is keeping up with my compadres. Don’t worry, I’m not going to use any names to protect the innocent.

During my conversations with both guys and gals yesterday, I got the same thing from my single friends. They’re all looking for same things, they’re all searching for someone who accepts them for who they are. They are all tired of being single. They want the comfort and companionship of another person. I know linking up two compatible people is something akin to winning the lottery, even if it is just a scratch off ticket. I hear from people they don’t necessarily need the looks but just the personality.

Here’s the part I find interesting. The commonality of all humans is just that we’re human. We love to be loved but hate to be rejected. Guys play the “Swingers” game, don’t call too quickly you’ll look desperate. Girls play the “you’re accessible so you’re not that attractive to me” game. Both sexes play the “I don’t want rejected” game so we cuddle up into our own world of safety, don’t communicate and potentially shrug off a potential relationship.

Most people in relationships (I’m excluding teenagers) are adults but many people act like the group I’ve omitted. If there’s no spark, why not just say “I like you but I just don’t feel a spark”. The opposite is true. If you feel that attraction, say it! I’ve felt like a matchmaker in the past telling two people to talk to one another because they both felt the attraction but were afraid to say anything.

Life is way too short for games. Yet we all play them in some way or another. Why? Is the fear of rejection or threat of mental harm that great? Honesty goes a long way and ends up eliminating a lot of future problems and trouble.

Your thoughts?